Welcome! New blog migrated from Friendster one. Why my blog decided to emigrate? It shall be discussed... later on, say... 21 wks later? *aheEkHem*
I'm changing department! Hehe.. Okay, to be more specific, I'm actually changing sections only within this big department. Nevertheless, it sure seems more exciting than to continue rot here with statistics and process control. Well, not yet la, but yesterday I heard JL mentioned it to SS. I'm not sure if its because I'm finally off their butts or that department is really that 'hot' for them to be that glad for me. :-/ Whatever it is, I look forward to it.
Yes, it's Valentine's. Erm, I seriously have not much opinion on it. It's just a day ppl wish to show appreciation to ppl they love. I know, I know, some of you (reading thru some blogs) may think it's a waste of money, or love should be shown everyday, but whatever it is, pls leave those ppl who only get to celebrate this once a year alone. It's their money/time/life rite? I mean, ppl get to choose what they want to regard it as; a Valentine's Day or a day just like any other. It's like Teacher's day, Labour's day, Father's day etc... Ppl (at least I do) do appreciate you everyday, but well someone (I dunno who) just decided to dedicate one of the 356 days to these particular groups of ppl. I guess human beings are getting busy and unfocused these days? I mean with the hectic life, work, travel and what naught, ppl just can't focus on one person the entire year out, thus the dedication of these special days to the respective parties. Of course, all these appreciation/feelings are sincere and kept deep inside the heart all the time, but once in a while, it just takes some actions for ppl to feel appreciated. It may not be the specified day, but just any day you made special for you and the person (partner/teachers/ parents /employees).
So much for 'have not much opinion' Ok, it's getting complicated, what I'm trying to say is, let ppl choose their celebrations. :)
If you have read my previous posts, then you know that I have learnt quite a lot from Jet Li's website. Seriously, there are a lot of interesting writings but for today; this piece may be more relevant. I hope I do not get sued or whatever for copy-pasting his writings here, but it is just something wise and meaningful that I feel will only double or triple or multiply infinitely when shared and not decrease, so...
I'm changing department! Hehe.. Okay, to be more specific, I'm actually changing sections only within this big department. Nevertheless, it sure seems more exciting than to continue rot here with statistics and process control. Well, not yet la, but yesterday I heard JL mentioned it to SS. I'm not sure if its because I'm finally off their butts or that department is really that 'hot' for them to be that glad for me. :-/ Whatever it is, I look forward to it.
Yes, it's Valentine's. Erm, I seriously have not much opinion on it. It's just a day ppl wish to show appreciation to ppl they love. I know, I know, some of you (reading thru some blogs) may think it's a waste of money, or love should be shown everyday, but whatever it is, pls leave those ppl who only get to celebrate this once a year alone. It's their money/time/life rite? I mean, ppl get to choose what they want to regard it as; a Valentine's Day or a day just like any other. It's like Teacher's day, Labour's day, Father's day etc... Ppl (at least I do) do appreciate you everyday, but well someone (I dunno who) just decided to dedicate one of the 356 days to these particular groups of ppl. I guess human beings are getting busy and unfocused these days? I mean with the hectic life, work, travel and what naught, ppl just can't focus on one person the entire year out, thus the dedication of these special days to the respective parties. Of course, all these appreciation/feelings are sincere and kept deep inside the heart all the time, but once in a while, it just takes some actions for ppl to feel appreciated. It may not be the specified day, but just any day you made special for you and the person (partner/teachers/ parents /employees).
So much for 'have not much opinion' Ok, it's getting complicated, what I'm trying to say is, let ppl choose their celebrations. :)
If you have read my previous posts, then you know that I have learnt quite a lot from Jet Li's website. Seriously, there are a lot of interesting writings but for today; this piece may be more relevant. I hope I do not get sued or whatever for copy-pasting his writings here, but it is just something wise and meaningful that I feel will only double or triple or multiply infinitely when shared and not decrease, so...
Jet's Response: (someone asked him something like the concept of true love)
Many times, people use the word "love" but do not understand what it means. They will say "I love this car" or "I love these shoes", but that isn't love. You don't love those things -- you "want" them. You want to own them. True Love is a gift.
Sometimes a person might say "I love this girl/boy", but in actuality they mean "I want this girl". Many of the things in this world -- money, material power, people -- you might want them to belong to you, but that isn't True Love. You don't love those things -- you love the idea of ownership of those things. You love what you think ownership will mean to you. Perhaps having that car means freedom ... or security ... or some other emotional state ... but ultimately it is just a desire for whatever that "thing" means to you. Do you love the girl/boy or do you love what being with that person means to you? True Love is a gift given to others. There is no sacrifice with True Love. Their happiness brings about your own happiness. It is important to be clear on the differences in True Love versus desire for ownership. It is also important to understand that True Love and romantic love are different things too. Sometimes they are coupled together, but you can have one without the other.
When True love and material desire are against each other, True Love will always win. For example, if you truly love someone, and they would like something that you own, you will gladly give it to them. True love has no ownership ... it has no self ... no personal desire ... it is only given as a gift. It is not something you want for yourself. There are no attachments, and with no attachments, there is no pain. If your girlfriend or boyfriend leaves you and you have True Love for them, you want only what makes them happy, even if it's not in your personal best interests. Attachments to your best interests aren't as important to you as their happiness. You are happy if they break up with you if it will make them happier. If you just have the love of attachment, or just have romantic love without True Love, then that loss hurts because you are thinking of your own personal loss of ownership or attachment with that person. True love is obviously not as common in today's world.
A person might love their clothes ... or might love practicing martial arts ... but if their True Love says "I want you to stop those things and move with me to New York" then you will stop them and move. In Buddhist thought, the highest level of Love is selfless unconditional giving. That is why Buddhists meditate -- to understand themselves. It is their hope that, through understanding themselves, they will understand the truth of their life. They will see that nothing in this world is truly ours and that ownership is simply an illusion of the mind. In understanding the impermanence of things, they divorce themselves from attachments, perspectives and position -- they can achieve "wu ji", or neutrality. Seeing through the illusion of ownership allows you to give, unconditionally, of yourself to others, and to demonstrate the qualities of True Love.
The day so fine,
Blue, blue sky ever divine,
Yet my heart seems so blind...
The answer I fear,
But just this once wished to hear...
Tonight when we dine,
Will you be so kind?
Over the candles and wine,
Please peace my anxious mind...
Will you decline...
To be my Valentine?
Nope, the 'thing' (I dunno if it qualifies as a poem, it's just lines I happen to crap as my fingers tap) above is not specifically meant for anyone. It's dedicated to all my friends and relatives out there, esp those in distant lands! Take care and Happy Valentine's Day everyone!
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